Whenever you are discussing about doing something in a group, there is a question you should ask. It is the most important question. It will make or break your work.
It is NOT “Who all are interested in the idea?”
It is “Who all are not really interested?”
The people who are not interested in doing something great, people who are pissed off by the idea of being great, and lazy people, and great eaters, and great sleepers, and people who do not talk, can lower the morale of your group significantly, and eventually you will drop your great idea. Better, drop those people.
Agreed.
It’s hard to surround yourself with these people though. Sometimes I find it motivating to have people disagree. Other times, I don’t. I certainly agree that it’s best to avoid arguing with people who disagree and generally hate your idea. Instead focus on actually doing it. Their comments are usually out of anger/jealousy/lack of understanding. Unless it’s critical for you to convince them; don’t waste your time.
Sorry to double-post, but I just wanted to add, that I actually think the best way to carry on with an innovative; possibly-disliked idea is to keep it private. I’ve found that both types of feedback (positive and negative) can be detrimental to the process. If it’s private you can tackle it in your own time, without having to meet arbitrary goals like impressing your friends, or showing off to your enemies, etc.
Silky,
Thanks for the great comments.
Arguing with people about an idea should at any cost prevented. Arguments almost always lead us nowhere.
Negative feedback has always helped me look at the problem/task from an angle that I might not have bothered thinking. _Reaction is of course my choice
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Being said that, including them in team always has its trade-offs, and there are times when you are forced to.
Bipin,
I have always found that negative feedback never really helped me. Feedback from people who support your idea can be more effective.
The word is ‘constructive’ feedback Niyaz. If u get feedback from someone which is rational and objective, it helps u a lot. It would also be good if the person from whom u seek feedback is not somone with whom you wish to be doing business. In that way, u dont lose hope and u get a few good points as well.
Tenny,
True.
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Dats 100% correct.dat typ f ppl wil hav supernatural intrests in d beginin and ,not in d end,aftr beginin dey wont even intrest and we gets pisd f our idea….so its bettr 2 keep dem out f ny f our plans.
Nabeeh,
Glad you agree.
hey tenny you are right “constructive” feedback help a lot in improving things…not the negative one. As both negative and positive feed backs are required to improve or enhance anything. Positive feedback encourage you while negative make you rethink over your idea or concept.